Posted in humor

Beauty and the Beast or Why Women Should Not Chase After Men

This is for all my ladies. We achieved equal rights with men, we can do everything men can do, sometimes we can do it better :), but for as long as it is us, who bear children, few things we need to leave to men. One of them is courting a lover. I will demonstrate my point with the help of our favorite children’s story – Beauty and the Beast.

Gaston is the hottest guy in the village. Many women desire him, they follow him, they swoon, but Gaston is not interested. What is available too readily is rarely appreciated. There is only one woman who makes Gaston work for her affections – Belle. Gaston wants Belle and he would do anything to have her as his wife. Gaston thinks Belle secretly loves him and that is all the encouragement he needs.

Belle pays little attention to Gaston; she wants to achieve her dreams. Belle thinks there is more to life than being Mrs. Gaston.

Belle’s adventures begin when her father gets kidnaped by the Beast. The unfortunate event turns into a blessing in disguise. Belle and the Beast begin their relationship by being rude to each other. There is mutual mistrust. Then, slowly, Belle becomes sweet to the Beast and he is enchanted by her. He is encouraged by her tenderness. The Beast does the impossible for Belle, sacrifices everything. That is when Belle realizes his love is true and chooses to be with him.

Now imagine Belle saw Gaston at the bar, was intrigued, came up and asked for his phone number. What do you think would happen? What if Belle never gave the Beast opportunity to prove his love, perhaps he was never interested in her in the first place. What if Belle kept pushing herself onto the beast and “sacrificing” herself just in case he changed his mind one day and took her “seriously”.

Ladies, always play it smart. Never put yourself at disadvantage.

Posted in Health

Healthy Foods to Keep Weight Off

It is hard enough to keep the weight off in our 20s. After 40 years of age, the metabolism slows down, the hormones change making it so much harder to keep the figure. The more weight we have the harder all our organs have to work to keep us functioning. Let us pick the most nutritious and healing foods and incorporate them in our daily diet.


Pick avocado for healthy fats. Avocado can help us control hunger. After 40, we tend to eat more. Even if we eat exactly the same amount of food, our metabolism slows down and we put on weight.

Avocados are very nutritious, they contain a wide variety of nutrients, including 20 different vitamins and minerals. Avocados are rich in Vitamin K, folate, Vitamin C, Potassium, Vitamin B5, Vitamin B6, Vitamin E. Avocados are loaded with heart-healthy monosaturated fatty acids. Avocados are rich in fiber and antioxidants.

Cabbage and Kale

Cabbage and Kale are the most nutritious healthy foods you can find, they provide in abundance alpha-lipoic acid, powerful antioxidant, which is needed to transform glucose to energy and keep the blood sugar stable. The research at the university of Maryland demonstrated that alpha-lipoic acid reduces the risk of diabetes, ictus, glaucoma and other pathologies.

Cabbage is excellent source of vitamin K, vitamin C, dietary fiber, potassium, vitamin B1, folate, copper, choline, phosphorus, vitamin B2, magnesium, calcium, selenium, iron, pantothenic acid, protein and niacin.

Kale is high in iron, Vitamin K, Vitamin A, Vitamin C, calcium, antioxidants (flavonoids, carotenoids), rich in omega-3 fatty acids. Kale is filled with fiber and sulfur, both are great for detoxifying the body and keeping liver healthy.


After 40 years of age, we tend to have more problems digesting fiber (especially women). Raspberries is a great alternative to fruit. According to the USDA data, it is enough to consume small cup of raspberries to supply our body with 8 grams of fiber. Red raspberries contain strong antioxidants such as Vitamin C, quercetin and gallic acid that fight against cancer, heart and circulatory disease and age-related decline.


Lentils have plenty of fiber. Lentils and beans help to reduce blood cholesterol. Lentil helps to stabilize blood sugar. It is rich in protein.


Harvard School of Public Health discovered that polyunsaturated fatty acids, which are plentiful in walnuts, reduce the risk of diabetes. Walnuts improve metabolism. The polyphenolic compounds and phytochemical substances found in walnuts reduce the effect of inflammation in the body. Melatonin, a hormone that helps induce and regulate sleep is available in walnuts in a bio-available form. Walnuts are rich in omega-3 and are an ample source of monounsaturated fatty acids like oleic acid.

Olive Oil

Olive oil is rich in healthy monounsaturated fats. Olive oil contains large amount of antioxidants. It has anti-inflammatory properties. Olive oil has anti-bacterial properties.

Cooked Tomatoes

A study published by International Journal of Cancer Research and Treatment showed the importance of lycopene and beta carotene which are abundant in tomatoes, carrots, also red fruits and vegetables to combat cancer. In tomatoes, lycopene and beta carotene are extracted better if tomatoes are cooked.


The Mediterranean diet, rich in seafood, reduces cardiovascular diseases. American Heart Association suggests eating more salmon. Salmon is excellent source of Vitamin B12, Vitamin D and selenium. It is a good source of niacin, omega-3 fatty acids, protein, phosphorus and Vitamin B6. It is also a good source of choline, pantothenic acid, biotin and potassium.

Posted in Community

My Conversation with Commissioner Andy Solis

Andy Solis was very kind to meet with me and answer few questions, below is a brief recap of our conversation. I learned a lot! AndySolis

Question: Does collier county “live within its budget”? How important is it to have a balanced budget?

Collier County lives within its budget. It is very important and we are conservative in our spending. We fully paid our debt during the recession years of 2007-2008. Of course, debt is necessary to fund our many important projects and we pay it as we go.

Question: What is your position on the off shore drilling in the Gulf of Mexico?

I do not support the off shore drilling. We don’t need it at this point. There are plenty of alternatives and better ways to extract oil.

Question: How important to you is to protect our environment? There are more harmful chemicals allowed in the drinking water.

It is very important to protect our environment. Our beautiful beaches and nature bring tourism to Collier County. The quality of Collier County’s tap water is very good. In fact, we won several prizes for best tasting water in the state.

Question: What is your position on the big farm polluters and the ensuing red tide problem?

We have to address Lake Okeechobee problem; we waited too long. We need to protect our biggest asset- the water, the beaches. We are building the reservoir south of Lake Okeechobee to address that problem.

Question: What do you do to create more jobs in Collier County?

We have several business accelerator programs in Naples. The Naples Accelerator headed by director Dr. Marshall Goodman provides small businesses with mentorship from industry leaders, networking opportunities, access to investors and sales leads. The Naples Accelerator also provides small businesses with offices and conference rooms. Many European businesses migrated to Naples with the help of Naples Accelerator.

We also have Collier County Culinary Accelerator. Christian Le Squer, a Michelin-rated chef who runs Le Cinq restaurant at the Four Seasons Hotel George V in Paris, has agreed to work with the Immokalee Culinary Accelerator to help our chefs and to raise money.

 Question: If the small businesses are the largest job creators how do we protect and encourage small business growth?

We need to create a business friendly environment in Collier County. For example, make permitting easier and less expensive.

Question: The rent keeps getting higher, the salaries are not keeping up. How do we insure affordable housing for the workers in Collier County?

The problem of housing affordability can be solved by making it more profitable for landowners and builders to develop multi-apartment housing vs. single-family luxury homes. We need to address density issue- how many housing units are allowed to be built on a certain property.

 Question:  How do we reduce crime in Collier County?

The crime rate in Collier County is very low, and it keeps decreasing despite our fast growth. The major problem we are facing today is the opioid addiction. We have educational programs in place and I am actively involved with the program to help people get the necessary information and support to fight the opioid addiction.

Andy Solis was very helpful and he definitely has my vote!


Posted in Self- improvement

Risk, Reward and Stupidity

Higher-level of reasoning vs. lower level of reasoning, how do we make decisions? Every day we make thousands of decisions both major and minor. Sometimes we make decisions without even realizing it. When facing a choice our brain determines the overall reward and risk, then our feelings get a vote (depending on how much power we give it, it may have a bigger sway) and for better or worse, we make a decision.

Think last time you were at the grocery store with a firm determination to buy only healthy food. At home, you were firm. Once in the grocery store, surrounded by the temptations and distractions of the most delicious junk foods, you made a new decision and you sealed it with the action – you bought a shopping cart full of unhealthy stuff. So what happened?

Our brain assigns everything a value based on that value we make decisions. Depressed people have difficulty assigning value, everything seems unappealing, the resulting decision – better stay in bed. Hoarding is caused by overvaluation of certain possessions. We have to make sure we assign right value to things. Things that are good for us should always have a higher value.

Why do we engage in reckless/dangerous behaviors? At some point of our lives, we all engage in behaviors that are risky or unwise. We do it because these behaviors bring pleasure, excitement and are temporarily rewarding. Maybe we want to spoil ourselves just this once. The problem is these behaviors can very quickly become addictive to the point that one day we lose any conscious control over the behavior.

Human beings are different from any other animal in that we are able to think and control our behavior.

Posted in things to do

Naples Night Life

IMG_27791You may think the fun begins and ends in Miami or NYC; if so, I will disagree with you. Here in Naples, we have few good places to indulge, unwind and socialize without mob and stress. Keep in mind all clubs and bars close at 2 A.M in Naples/Fort Myers. Below are my favorite night destinations.

Dusk- The Ritz-Carlton

A sophisticated lounge with DJ music and delicious food. The clientele is mostly tourists. Bring your own date and enjoy the most romantic night on the town! After few drinks and dancing, you could go for a walk on the beach under the stars (Ritz-Carlton is on the beach).

Blue Martini Lounge at Mercato

Classy lounge with live music every day starting at 8pm. DJ spins popular hits after 10pm. If you go before 10 pm, you will see mostly older crowd. People in their 20s, 30s go to Blue Martini after 10pm usually on Fridays and Saturdays.

Burn by Rocky Patel at Mercato

Luxurious lounge offering fine cigars and high-end spirits with DJ music. If you are a smoker, this is a heaven.

Cavo Lounge at Mercato

Cavo is beautiful and casual. I like the music selection the DJ plays. The crowd here is younger than that in Blue Martini.

Paradise Wine & Lounge

Paradise Wine is a retail shop and entertainment venue. It is simply amazing and so much fun! You will see lots of young people here.

D’Amico’s The Continental

This is a high-end restaurant on 3rd Street South, Naples with live music and dancing. The crowd is mostly over 50 years old.

Posted in money

How to Make Money for Smarties

To give advice is easy, to follow your own advice is quite a different matter 🙂 Suppose you were not born, adopted or married into a wealthy family. You may think your luck is lame, but maybe things are not as bad as they seem. Rich families have their own despots.

To earn money always think out of the box. I will use Veto Corleone to make a point, although being a crime boss is not a smart way to make money. You can be killed, go to jail, and, really, there is no need for all that stress and bad karma. Smart people make money without breaking laws; they change the laws.

Vito Corleone was not physically the strongest, or the most educated man in the neighborhood, yet Vito became the Godfather- the boss. To become a leader one must appear to be fair. We hate injustice. The leader must have excellent social skills. One must also have strong connections with the community: know people, be one with the people, have respect of the people. Vito has another winning trait – he takes care of people. It is not a “one-way street” with Vito.

Most organizations begin with one hard working employee – the boss. Then, as the business expands, help is hired. Money is made. So, if owning a business is a recipe for success why most of us fail to build our own great corporation and make tons of money? Here are few reasons:

  1. We fail because we are afraid to start the business. We are afraid of failure. We are afraid to lose money.
  2. We don’t know what kind of business we want to have.
  3. We are not really passionate about the business we started.
  4. We borrow too much money and can’t pay it back.
  5. We fail because we don’t think, improve and innovate.
  6. We fail because we are out of touch with the community.
  7. We fail because we are too selfish.

We work hard, we work to make other people’s business flourish until one day we set ourselves free and become our own boss.

Posted in Self- improvement

About Life Satisfaction, Happiness

What does everybody want? Happiness. More than simply positive mood, happiness is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life with a sense of meaning and deep satisfaction.

If we want to be happy, we have to work for it. If we are unhappy, we have ourselves to blame.

To do list (to find that elusive, everlasting happiness):

  1. Have a peace of mind. Whatever drives you nuts – get rid of it, or distance yourself from it.
  2. Think positive thoughts and you will have positive attitude.
  3. Find your passion/interesting challenge in life.
  4. Start using your brain. Learn to think. Solve the problems yourself.
  5. Be the master of your emotions.
  6. Keep the body healthy. Healthy foods consumed in moderation will maintain a balanced chemical level in the brain and the whole body. Good food and exercise will ward off mental issues like depression, attention deficit disorders and myriad of other physical and mental ailments.
  7. Stay away from addictive substances.
  8. Have strong, good relationships.
  9. Make sure you have enough money. Money buys freedom from worry about the basics in life—housing, food, clothing.
  10. Be helpful!